Stories

Forgiveness

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It’s quite a challenge to sit with the task of helping someone, while the painful memories you still hold around them also sit right next to you. Spirit has the audacity to humble you in that way;making you reach a level of forgiveness you were not interested in going that deep for. Our capacity to […]

YOU ALSO CHOSE A WAR

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They don’t tell you that choosing the truth also means choosing war.   Lies run out of tales to feed you, and the starvation makes you seek home.   Illusions have no more views to offer, and what’s real is hard for the eye to see. Here you learn that you’ve never quite used your […]

Only The Full Story Can Fix Us

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The healing of Black families and all that is tied to black families is in the details. We receive stories from our elders about how certain things connect, but there are crucial details that are left out of these stories.   It’s in the details that we will understand conflicts, feuds and curses. It’s in […]

THE UNAPOLOGETIC NO

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I want to give the unapologetic ‘no.’   I want to drop it on hard ground bringing no cushions for its fall.   It should smash when it lands so all of its pieces are scattered and heard.   I want to give the unapologetic ‘no’ and only follow it up with a period . […]

TRAUMA IS NOT POLITE

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Sometimes violation looks ordinary. It can have a calm appearance and soft sound. Looking harmless to the one that it is happening to. A harmful secret. But trauma eventually exposes the secret. Trauma doesn’t know time, sequence or any kind of organisation. At any given moment it triggers a flood of feelings, none of which […]

YOU CAN TEACH YOUR ANCESTORS

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Unlearning the dark stigma attached to amaDlozi is just a tip of the iceberg. There are many other elements to unlearn about the relationship we have with them.   For one: The relationship doesn’t have to be a dictatorship.   You, their child, can actually lead, teach and guide them too. Some of them hold […]

A TRIGGERED CHILD’S HERO

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We are back here. Underneath my thick pastel coloured blanket. The one I envision being wrapped in when I pray.   Pastel. A good colour for this little one.   I make a tent out of it. The closest thing I have to the cave that I wish we could hide in. I’m realising that with […]

ANCESTRAL INHERITANCE

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We may not be fully aware of the extent, but most of the paths we have taken in our personal lives are influenced by our ancestors, and are a modern manifestation of our tribe’s principles, skills and talents. In as much as we may not have full details about our lineage today, we are still […]

WRITE INTO YOURSELF

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Writing is not only a form of art that is reserved for the creative, informed and entertaining wordsmiths. It’s also a powerful personal development technique that can aid you in building a better relationship with self, which can improve how you navigate other areas of your life.   Be the storyteller that detangles the details of […]