Stories

THE UNAPOLOGETIC NO

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I want to give the unapologetic ‘no.’   I want to drop it on hard ground bringing no cushions for its fall.   It should smash when it lands so all of its pieces are scattered and heard.   I want to give the unapologetic ‘no’ and only follow it up with a period . […]

TRAUMA IS NOT POLITE

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Sometimes violation looks ordinary. It can have a calm appearance and soft sound. Looking harmless to the one that it is happening to. A harmful secret. But trauma eventually exposes the secret. Trauma doesn’t know time, sequence or any kind of organisation. At any given moment it triggers a flood of feelings, none of which […]

YOU CAN TEACH YOUR ANCESTORS

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Unlearning the dark stigma attached to amaDlozi is just a tip of the iceberg. There are many other elements to unlearn about the relationship we have with them.   For one: The relationship doesn’t have to be a dictatorship.   You, their child, can actually lead, teach and guide them too. Some of them hold […]

A TRIGGERED CHILD’S HERO

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We are back here. Underneath my thick pastel coloured blanket. The one I envision being wrapped in when I pray.   Pastel. A good colour for this little one.   I make a tent out of it. The closest thing I have to the cave that I wish we could hide in. I’m realising that with […]

ANCESTRAL INHERITANCE

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We may not be fully aware of the extent, but most of the paths we have taken in our personal lives are influenced by our ancestors, and are a modern manifestation of our tribe’s principles, skills and talents. In as much as we may not have full details about our lineage today, we are still […]

WRITE INTO YOURSELF

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Writing is not only a form of art that is reserved for the creative, informed and entertaining wordsmiths. It’s also a powerful personal development technique that can aid you in building a better relationship with self, which can improve how you navigate other areas of your life.   Be the storyteller that detangles the details of […]

The Nightmares Know

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I hear you’ve heard about us.   it sounds like a story about my moving on doesn’t it? a story that finally marks our ending a story signaling you to finally let me go a story about my happily ever after.   yeah we did end. you probably should let me go. i suppose i […]

LOVE AND MAYBE

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Maybe you’re afraid of love because you still think it’s about breaking off pieces of yourself and handing them over.   Maybe it’s hard to admit that the heart break you are avoiding is one often done by your hand first.   Maybe you loved a beautiful empty thing, filling it with enough of yourself […]

CALLS FROM THE DRUMS

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“You should probably get it checked out now” “I know. It doesn’t hurt me though, it’s just… strange.” “Oh, so you’d rather go to the doc when your eardrums eventually explode?”   This conversation had been coming up every once in a while for a couple of months now, that’s how long Ngoma had been […]